Yes Person

This speaks for itself! I often find myself doing things for others that are far less important than the things I should be doing for my own family, friends and myself. I say ‘’yes’’ immediately to every request without due thought and then simmer with resentment afterwards. I say ‘’yes’’ to social occasions and then feel sick with trepidation and dread beforehand, not to mention the thought of impending dullness (which is no longer negated by wine). I join clubs and activities simply because I am incapable of saying no or letting people down. In reality I let people down all the time because I end up cancelling after the initial fake display of exuberance. Being a Yes person is pathetic and there is no place for it in bipolar recovery. You can still be kind without being a pushover. I have been failing miserably to practice what I preach on this topic. If someone owes me money I am too embarrassed to ask them for it, even if they are bold as brass and incredibly outspoken on such matters. I avoid confrontation at all costs while bemoaning other people’s actions instead of tackling it head on. In short I am a wimp!